APPRECIATION ALL THAT IS

There's 1 thing that every woman has to keepin her heart and mind as a kind of "guide" for herself in order to both attract the right man,and to create the right kind of healthy and lasting relationship between them.
And that one thing is YOUR OWN VISION of what a GREAT RELATIONSHIP looks like for you.
I'm talking about the kind of relationship thatfills you and makes you the most beautiful andinspired woman you can be.
You might think of this as your "highest self"in love.
A simple way to put this is having your own STANDARDS.
Living to your own standards means not just wanting a certain life, but living that life yourself regardless of others. (Men)
Too many women fall into the trap of NOT having their relationship live up to what theywant, and instead of observing this and adjustingtheir life and relationship for the better...
They create more pain in their lives by finding all kinds of ways to keep struggling AGAINSTthe very things that aren't working.
Here's a helpful way to think about thesekinds of situations-
When you PUSH on something that doesn't move, it means that what you are pushing on is moved to RESIST YOU with a force greater than or equal tothe force you are pushing with.
This is a law of physics and the world aroundyou.
When you push against a feeling, or a person,or a relationship... guess what happens?
That thing also RESISTS.
This is how we often trap ourselves, and getcaught in our own patterns of struggle.
Following your standards in relationships doesn't mean PUSHING on a man to be different,or convincing him to change.
Following your standards means quietly observing the life and love you are choosing to create and share - and being the one person in charge of making sure you are living the kind of life and relationship you desire.
When you observe your own life with love andcompassion for yourself, it becomes clear to youwhat is right and wrong for you.
And more importantly...
You don't end up settling for less than you deserve. And you end up TEACHING those closestto you how to love and respect you.
Now, there's a little trick about having standards for yourself and living up to them.
When you choose to live your life the way you really want it, then there's a beautiful price you pay in relationships -
If you receive anything less than what you want or expect from a man, you aren't allowed to fall apart and dwell in what he hasn't given you.
Going to a place of blame and criticism is not part of your "best" or "higher" self.
When you have chosen to create and live your own life, and you have taken the responsibility for loving another... it is YOUR PLACE to remainthat "whole person" you are who doesn't NEED andDEMAND what you want from a man.
But instead chooses to INSPIRE the kind of love you want to share, and gives love freely whenyou have chosen to.